Getting the right motivation

Any time it comes to getting the most informative and dependable motivation, go for a motivational worker, not a motivational speaker. Only listen to motivational speakers if they have experience working in the same field or area that you need motivation. Except you are ready to swallow more or lesser than you can chew, only listen to motivational workers that speak from their work experience, who personally understand the challenges and opportunities of the work, not professional motivational speakers that know the subjects through books. 

Thinking through this topic, I see that a large percentage of motivations that come from motivational speakers - especially individuals coming from different fields of career - can be misleading. This is mostly because most would either exaggerate or belittle the context of the situations being discussed.

Imagine a professional public speaker telling a bricklayer, carpenter, or a farmer that he shouldn't rest when he's tired, but rather he should rest only when's he has completed his job. If they listen to that kind of motivation, they might not live to come to work another day.

Similarly, there are some clergymen that will tell you that all you need to succeed in life is the word of God. Hmm, that may be true if your success is a kind of manner that will fall from heaven, or if you are also a clergyman. But to succeed in another profession in life, you need adequate training and knowledge of your work - not Bible knowledge. Now, I know there's a place for asking God for wisdom and divine knowledge about your chosen profession. But more importantly, I think you need training and mentorship by the people in your area of career focus. 

If you are in Business, you need to know how business works! If you are a scientist, you need to know what it takes to carry out groundbreaking research, and if you are a student, you need an adequate understanding of what is expected of you in school. Stop listening to people that will mislead you. Go to the right source for the training you need. Go to the people who have done or doing what you want to do.

If you want to be a writer, listen to, and learn from writers. If you want to succeed as a politician, go and join politics and study towards that line. To be a motivational speaker, listen to motivational speakers, and to be a pastor join a church leadership and get training that will turn you into a successful preacher.

It's nice to be a strong Bible student as a Christian, to enable you to understand the spiritual approach to life challenges,  but after that, except you are planning to be a gospel minister,  please spend more of your time on the career you have chosen in life - that's your own call in life. And if you think your call is to be a preacher or life coach, please spend more time with people in that line. Stop wasting your time, hanging around a building you will never enter. Focus on your own direction and move towards your own destination.

Let me say it again. When it comes to getting instructions and motivations regarding your profession, seek them from people who have walked or walking in the same pathway you are. Don't let the people who have never been in your shoe tell you how to wear it, except you are ready to play try and error with your life.

Here is the bottom line, the summary of my thoughts. Be selective and careful when it comes to listening to motivational speakers or even some so-called pastors. Only listen to people that speak from personal experiences that are related to your direction or potential direction. A wrong motivation can make you live lesser than your potential. It can also make you break your backbone. But right counsel will direct you in the pathway that will lead you to a destination that is best for you. 

I don't think you will get the best from a professional motivational speaker, a clergyman, or any individual teaching you what you need to do to succeed in a field they have never practiced or trained for. It would be like getting a random person to read a coaching material and coach a football team to succeed. 

Winning with words

Your words are powerful. The words you speak or hear can either empower you or weaken you. They can either heal you or injure you. In fact, 
depending on how you use your words, your words may kill or save your life. There are two ways I can explain this to you, using the natural and spiritual knowledge. I will explain both ways in the following passages.

Natural knowledge
Good words
Think about this! The words you speak to yourself or others speak to you can make you feel good or bad about yourself.  When you hear good words like thank you, good job, well done,  excellent job, you are smart, awesome, handsome or beautiful, or cute, etc. about yourself, this will make you fill great about yourself. Throughout that day or any time you think about those words, your head will 'swell' and you will probably secretly smile to yourself. This would go along way to affect everything you do that day. Because it would generate a sense of happiness within you that would make you approach everything with a sense of worthiness and self-esteem. This will make you want to do more of what you are doing excellently, and thus make you more successful. 

Bad words 
However, if for one reason or the other you or somebody said to you these words - foolish person, stupid, ugly,  dullard, worthless, failure, poor, etc., this would probably destroy your happiness that day or any time you remembers those words. Especially, if you continue to think about those words, you might begin to believe they are actually true for you. That would make you feel bad. You may become sad and feel worthless. Unconsciously, your face may become frowned and your look becomes sadly and unfriendly. This could make you lose your excitement and interest in the things you are doing at that time. It may even make you postpone important activities or tasks until a later time. It could result in making you doing things poorly, and affect your end results badly, leading to failure. 

These two scenarios demonstrate how words can naturally make you successful (win) or lose in life. Now I will explain how words can affect your life using spiritual- biblically - knowledge. 

Spiritual knowledge
According to the spiritual knowledge revealed in the Bible, the spoken words are a spirit. The words we speak have life. They are a living entity, that can give or take life. This was shown in several places in the Bible

The Lord Jesus Christ said: 
                "It is the Spirit Who gives life [He is the Life-giver]; the flesh conveys no benefit whatever [there is no profit in it]. The words (truths) that I have been speaking to you are spirit and life".
                 John 6:63 AMPC

Hmm,...the words I have been speaking to you are SPIRIT and LIFE. Here, Jesus Christ is saying His words are spirits, and that they have life and can give life. Jesus Christ proved this to be true several times in the Bible when He spoke His words to heal the sick and used His words to affect many things including humans, fish, ocean, trees, death, etc. 

Just as it was true for the Lord Jesus Christ, I believe the words of every man or woman also have life. Your words and my words are spirits. They have life and can give life. In another place in the bible, the Word says;

                "That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him                       from the dead, thou shalt be saved."
                  Romans 10:9

This means it is not enough to believe in your heart that Jesus Christ is Lord, you have to say it out with your mouth for you to be saved. 

In some other places, the Bible says:
                "The words you say will either acquit you or condemn you." 
                Matthew 12:37 NLT
                
                "It’s not what goes into your mouth that defiles you; you are defiled by the words that come out of your mouth."
                Matthew 15:11 NLT

                "If you want to enjoy life and see many happy days, keep your tongue from speaking evil and your lips from telling                    lies." 1 Peter 3:10 NLT

                ".........let the weak say, “I am strong.”
                Joel 3:10 KJV
All these Bible passages point to the fact that your words and my words are spirits and have life, and depending on what we say or hear, our words can save or destroy life. 

As you can see, words can naturally affect you positively (good words) or negatively (bad words),  and spiritual knowledge shows that words are spirits and they are able to give or take life. In fact, every man is at the mercy of the words he speaks or hears.
Therefore to win with words, you must engage yourself only in hearing and speaking positive and encouraging words. You must ensure that the words that enter you or come out of your mouth to yourself and others are words that make people win. So the rule is, "speak positive words or don't speak at all." 

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